I originally began this blog after getting engaged, thinking that I would be writing about weddings and wedding plans every day.
Turns out, a couple of things changed these plans.
1) Wedding planning (at least for me) comes in bursts- a few weeks of making big decisions, lulls of a full month or two, interrupted by a couple weeks of dress shopping, followed by another month with nothing-wedding-related-to-do. Although I think about the wedding every day and look at pictures or add to my Pinterest wedding board on a weekly basis, the actual ‘planning’ is kind of boring, to be honest. (I know I will take that back when I’m at T-minus a month or so, but that’s how I feel right now).
2) I realized I did not want to post about MY actual wedding crafts, plans, decisions, etc (besides the basics) until after the wedding. My followers (few, but lovely) that I have right now are mostly my family/friends who will be at the wedding (don’t want to give everything away before the big day).
3) The “I’m going to DIY & craft as much of this wedding as possible” mentality quickly spilled over into my regular, every-day life, and I started making & sharing home decor projects, too!
So, needless to say, the “wedding blog” quickly morphed into the “everything I feel like writing about” blog. I am still happily planning, dreaming & scheming about our upcoming wedding day (less than 6 months away!) however, and so to bring some order to the madness of my “everything” blog- I decided to start Wedding Wednesdays!
You can count on a wedding-related post every Wednesday. Maybe it will be decor or DIY project related, maybe it will be a little rant about how everything with the word ‘wedding’ or ‘bridal’ in it is twice as expensive as its identical, non-wedding counterpart. Who knows. Today, however, I’m going to talk about wedding music.
I am a musician. I don’t talk about my music or professional life much on this blog, but I have shared that I am a teacher, working specifically in the arts, and a singer. I went to school (and am currently still in school) to study music, I sing daily (and occasionally get paid for it), and I have a never-ending soundtrack playing inside of my head at all times.
My FH (future hubby) is also involved in the arts, and while not a musician himself, has a love for music & a secret past of performing in high school musicals that he refuses to share evidence of. Even so, FH doesn’t really get my ‘music brain’ as he calls it, and finds it amusing (and sometimes, kind of annoying) that I randomly break into song, or sing instead of speak in a conversation. (I’m like a less adorably-cute, but equally adorkably-kooky version of Zooey Deschanel in New Girl).
Because music is such an integral, essential part of my life- the music that will be a part of our wedding ceremony is consequently of great importance to me. I’d like to say I have it all figured out… but that would be a lie. I do have vague ideas of what I want, however they are currently cloud-like ideas, floating somewhere outside of actual, concrete decisions.
I’ve been to a bunch of weddings, and both been a part of (as singer- either professional or friend) and attended weddings with a clearly defined and original music aspect.
The majority of the weddings I sing for professionally are Catholic ceremonies or masses. I am not Catholic, however I do like Catholic weddings. They are formal, reverent and follow a defined structure. The music is conservative and pulled from a catalog of standard/acceptable pieces, however it is beautiful and appropriate for the style of the wedding. I love attending this type of wedding, and I love being a part of them as a singer. I’m glad, however, that I am not a Catholic, because my ‘music brain’ and amorphous, non-idea-ideas definitely do not fit the structured mold of a Catholic ceremony.
When there is more flexibility, the choices are endless. I’ve been to weddings where the music is the main event- the highlight of the whole ceremony. On the other end of the spectrum, I recently attended a wedding with no music at all. Just a simple, sweet and utterly perfect moment between the couple, the officiant, and their families. At this wedding, I truly felt the presence of a higher being. It was a precious celebration of love.
As a musician & wedding singer (not the Adam Sandler kind, although I sort of wish I were), I get a lot of questions about the music for my wedding. I imagine friends and family have expectations, of some sort, for the way music will fit into our special day. When asked, I typically provide some sort of smart alec-y response, like:
“Oh, I’ll be performing all of my own wedding music. I’ll wear a wireless mic, strap on a keytar, and sing myself down the aisle.”
This is a Keytar. In case you were wondering. (Image Source)
The reality, however, is that I am thinking very hard and carefully about how I can ensure the music of our wedding ceremony is personal and meaningful to us. FH and I do not really have “a song”… unless you count a certain number performed by Ludacris … but we’ll avoid that for the sake of my Grandparents’ sensibilities.
Ludacris: Not your Grandmother’s Wedding Singer (Image Source)
Even so, we have shared musical tastes (for the most part, although FH does NOT seem to enjoy MMMBop by Hanson the way I do…) and one particular song that carries meaning for us (mostly because it always makes ME cry, and FH likes to make fun of me for that).
While the music at our wedding is incredibly important to me, what is more important to me is that I will be marrying my love, and that we will be taking an enormous step on a new path together. I hope to select music that enhances the love-fest atmosphere, fits our individual personalities and combined partnership, and above all serves as a piece of the day, but does not overshadow the moment where we commit our lives to each other.
So, as you can see, I don’t want much… I just want it to be perfect. Haha. Or at least perfect for us. 🙂
And maybe, just maybe, I can sneak this one into the mix: